“How much shit do I have to pay for?” – Anonymous
I am not sure that there is a right or a wrong answer for this question. Sure, the old school way is that the guy should pay for everything, but Im not exactly completely old school. For example, me picking up the occasional tab, movie tickets or whatever it may be is fine by me as long as I am the one offering. If you ask me to pay then I am going to assume that you are the cheap as and just looking for a sugar momma. A sugar momma I am not but again, I am not expecting daddy warbucks either.
I don’t think most girls look at guys as walking moneybags. There is a fine line between being a gentleman and paying for the date and trying to buy the girl. Gifts are very sweet and greatly appreciated but no one is asking you to drop your entire paycheck on a present. Its the thought you put into it that really counts. The smallest things usually mean the most if you put your heart into them, so keep that in mind.
For the first several dates, gents––all of it. No question. If she should offer, I recommend politely refusing. When, and hopefully if, your dates progress to regular and frequent status she should offer to pick up the tab on occasion. Splitting the check or letting her pay sometimes is perfectly acceptable. If she invites you out, she should offer to pay; whether you let her or not is up to you.
Paying protocol depends on where you are in your relationship. Is it the first date and I’m not feeling you? Yes, pay for me please. Is it the first date and this is going somewhere? Then I will offer to split the bill. Is this the 4th date and you’ve paid for me for the first 3 dates and this is headed toward a relationship? Then I’ll offer to pay. Is this a 6 month relationship, neither of us cook, and we always go out? I’m offering to pay probably every 3rd to 4th meal. I like a guy to pay if he can, but I’m not so high maintenance that I expect him to pay all the time. When all else fails, there’s always the Dollar Menu (which I’m a fan of) at McDonald’s.
How long do you want us to pay for our waxing, plucking, tanning, hair dying, cute panties, makeup, birth control and everything else we pay for to get ready for dates?
I’ve had the pleasure of treating one of these pretty girls to drinks and appetizers on a few occasions. I’ll color you jealous now. Don’t be afraid of the credit card, gents. It pays off.
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