Tuesdays with the Pretty Girls: Underlying Contempt?

A bit of a hot topic, but the question was posed, and I would be remiss if I didn’t at least present it to my lovely ladies. From the inquiring minds at TheDCAM.com comes this week’s question:
“How much contempt do you have for fat girls? A lot or a whole whole lot?”

For reference: http://www.telegraph.co.uk/health/healthnews/7589523/Women-have-inbuilt-fear-of-being-fat.html

This is a topic that no woman can say doesn’t affect them. Even those lucky enough to be happy with what god gave them (or what they worked hard for) are aware of their own body and notice other women’s bodies as well, which often leads to a tiny mental comparison. The best way I can describe this is that it’s like a mental graph. There is a low end and a high end of what a desirable body is and the women you notice, get placed on that scale accordingly. You end up placing yourself on the scale too (this usually adjusts as self esteem is affected by a lot of things, most not even body image related). That being said, I wouldn’t describe this as contempt for oneself or for the other women. It may just be a sub-conscious way of dealing with the expectations of what an “ideal body image” is; a way of grading yourself against those expectations. It’s tough out there for the ladies.

None. Interesting article, though (however, it says nothing about contempt for others, but rather feelings of fear and self-loathing regarding one’s own weight). It’s always been obvious that guys are somehow immune to the fear of being overweight while women focus on it. Do men have healthier body images overall? Perhaps. They are also safe from the overwhelming bombardment of ‘skinny is perfect’ images that women face. It’s easy to absorb this barrage and believe that what matters most is bodily appearance, which is sad and unfortunately rampant.  Being overweight or overly skinny isn’t good for your health; that’s where I place my focus.
Contempt? Really?? What kind of boorish question is this?? Lemme ask you, does your computer get jealous when you use the microwave??
While the entire panel didn’t chime in, I thought these to be some good answers. Further, though, what are your thoughts on this “feeling?”
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6 responses to “Tuesdays with the Pretty Girls: Underlying Contempt?

  1. I’m with Gabe. The pressure for men to be fit/thin is a growing concern. I don’t know if there is necessarily contempt for fat girls/people as much as there is contempt towards the misrepresentation of the “attainable/ideal” body (see Gabe’s mention of Men’s Health, Men’s Fitness, etc.)

    There is a lack of understanding regarding how “real” the images in magazines and film are…Photoshop, lighting, and makeup create what no gym membership or plastic surgery could ever produce.

    Mind you, my point is not groundbreaking. Just my two cents.

  2. I take slight umbrage with the idea that men don’t suffer equally with poor body image. While we’re not bombarded with “skinny is sexy,” we’re certainly bombarded with “6-packs are sexy.” The men throughout magazines like GQ, Esquire, etc. aren’t “normal” men, just like the Victoria Secret models aren’t “normal” women. Look at magazines like Men’s Fitness, Muscle and Fitness, Men’s Health, et al. The skinny guys are always trying to get bigger and the bigger guys are trying to get “leaner.” Eating disorders are becoming way more apparent in men than ever before.

  3. While men do also face pressure over weight, and while male eating disorders and other manifestations of this pressure are a growing problem, we still face nowhere near the scrutiny that women do. Listen to the way that people talk about overweight men and women. See how soon it comes up that someone is fat. Read the comment threads on some gross gossip rag.

    Weight and appearance are pretty much a categorical default for insults directed at women, regardless of the context, but not so for men.

  4. this is ridiculous. i appreciate what you’re trying to do here but i honestly think you’re not accomplishing anything.

    • momentumoffailure

      While the initial question was asked in a somewhat jarring manner, I think the issue brought to light is worth fleshing out. Is a comment forum the proper venue? It’s not ideal, but it’ll do for now.

  5. Perhaps I should amend the question and instead ask, being you all define yourselves as ‘pretty’ and whatnot, do you have contempt for fat girls because they have contempt for you? I know this to be true because I was at a Hooters once and fat lady kept calling her waitress a ‘skinny-ass bitch-ass cunt’ whenever she left the table, although that may be just because she screwed up her chili-cheese fries order, can’t be sure

    And yes Jennifer, contempt, and it’s not boorish at all, however it is a little mean-spirited to ask about the fights between my laptop and microwave… lately I’ve been playing more online poker than popping a bags of popcorn, and the 1500-watt radiation box is a cruel mistress.

    Anyway, back to my regular day, you know, being a guy, not having body issues, PMS, or having to act shocked when someone would accuse me of having any kind of ‘contempt’ at all.

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