It’s an adage as old as time itself and also a fairly good Green Day song (not in question form), but inquiring minds wants to know…
Do Nice Guys Finish Last? – Branden “Skip” Brooks
Maybe I’m overly optimistic or naive but I like to think they don’t. However, if by ‘nice’ you mean ‘doormat’ then the answer is yes. As previously stated by our panel, confidence and a healthy dose of self-assurance will get you far, and both are possible while still being good-hearted. In fact, it takes more brashness to be a nice guy who doesn’t hide behind arrogance and narcissism. And yes, there are ladies out there that want a nice guy; one who can hold his own.
Yes, nice guys do tend to end up in the friend zone. How do you avoid the friend zone? Have some edge; don’t be a pushover; basically, act like a man and not a boy. Straddle the line between nice and respectful and you’ll finish first in the long run. Cross the line into being too kiss ass and you will not only come across as desperate, but you will lose steam, not finish the race, and consequently disqualify yourself from even being considered for the friend zone.
I think the phrase “nice guy” has been misused over the years and the “nice guys” that we refer to these days are actually just scared of girls. So when you hear “he is just too nice,” it means that he can’t make a move and therefore putting it all on the girl and making her responsible for the advancement of this relationship. It’s no wonder these “nice guys” finish last. It’s because they are afraid of rejection, leaving it up to the girl and making her wear the pants. I’ve had plenty of encounters with guys who were “nice” and they were quickly put in the “friend” category, only because they couldn’t man up.
Yes, they do. It’s so hard to find an honest, kind, genuine guy in the 21st century. So, if he’s a legit dude, don’t let go.